I was scrolling through Instagram, and I happen to see a post asking about what could black women do in America to aid or stop the aid, of the emasculation of black men? Now, I saw quite a few posts that said that black men can’t be masculine and that women can’t emasculate men. Or that men need to worry about themselves and women need to worry about their selves. I also saw some posts that said that there are several different layers to this and I saw an interesting one that said that the black girl magic or the black woman’s movement is to blame for the emasculation of black men in this society. I looked at that and I said, this may be a valid point. And this one you know, has some things that could be seen as valid. But, in my humble opinion, the most damaging thing that emasculates black men is a lack of having a father in the home. I come back to this time and time again, several people disagree with me. But, I feel and I always have felt that the most damaging thing to black men is the lack of black male leadership and presence in the household. So, this can go in several different ways, but I am going on a concrete path here. Now, the men who leave the household or who present themselves to a woman as one thing, impregnate them and leave. This is super disheartening to the woman. It is super disheartening to the child that eventually comes. This also is disheartening to the community.

Now, what do I mean? We can look at TV shows, we can read books, we can look online. You will see a large number of white men in the home, you will see a large number of Hispanic men in the household, and you have a lot of Chinese or Asian descent men in the household. But what we don’t see is a large number of black men in the household. Now, I can’t go on here or say whose fault it is that we are at this point right now. That’s not for me to say or judge and I can not tell you that I have the facts to back it up. But what I am going to say is that anyway. We need to find a way to get the black man back in his house to raise the children. If we don’t do that, then we have emasculated ourselves anyway. If you don’t have a presence in your household, then your child will turn out anyway that they’re laid. If that is the LGBTQ movement, if that is the red pill movement, is that if that is the gang banging – gang life movement, if that is just the street Thug Life movement, if that is just laid. All of these lifestyles are going to be impressed and own pressed in the child’s mind. And there’s nothing that you can do about it once it has been pressed and imprinted in the child’s brain.

We need to catch our young people at an early age and keep them close by, providing the best resources for them to make the best choices for themselves. If someone is in a household with two parents and not subject to molestation or some type of trauma, or sexual abuse, then we should not have a problem with the young person, saying that they have these feelings and wants to be gay, bisexual, or trans. Now, let’s pivot this to home. We as black men seem to have the highest absentee households. Proportiontional to the population, black American households lacks a male role model. We can only mimic what we see and are exposed to. So many people think that we can be something that we’ve never seen. That’s why it was so important for Barack Obama. That’s why it was so important for Oprah Winfrey. These people were people who were at the forefront. See you can’t do things that you can’t envision or you have not ever seen before. It is like a fantasy. It is so hard to do something that someone else has never done. You have all the things that push against you on the outside but, also on the inside of your mind.

At this point, black male leadership in the household will start to forge a path with young men and women who have had and seen first-hand leadership in the household. This will lead to children being children again. Finding out the pecking order in the neighborhood, not with guns. But with fistfights and life lessons – to live to fight another day. Also, to see there’s strength in humility and there is strength and being able to get knocked down and get up. See, these are things that our young boys aren’t accustomed to and haven’t been able to accept. They haven’t been able to take any ridicule or shame with social media being a part of our society. They hadn’t been able to endure having a fight and being embarrassed without grabbing a gun, becoming overly emotional, or suicidal. These things are things that we need to have a father in the home. In my opinion not having black fathers in the household is the greatest demasculinization of black children. Now, this is particularly for a young male, but this goes to also the female.

So in conclusion; my view of this is that the black man has caused the emasculation of the black children by not being in the household with them and leading them down the correct path. We all need leadership at some point and time in life, whether it’s at a job at church or any sporting activity, but most importantly, we need our leadership to be at home first. The way you are brought up and lead so then you can therefore go lead. So we as men have caused our greatest emasculation over these years. So now we have to figure out a plan on how to regain our respect. And once we regain our respect and make our presence known, we will not have to worry about being emasculated. The world will see the masculine energy that is out there from us raising strong black men. We will conclude this, but the final point is that it all comes down to black men not being in the home. It is so important for black men to be present in the lives of their children. Without a strong male role model, children will mimic what they see and are exposed to. This can lead to them making poor choices and following a path that is not beneficial to them. Black men need to be leaders in their households!